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one is the loneliest number......
one is the loneliest number...... two can be as bad as one........ have you ever been with someone, and in the midst of being there, thought that you'd rather be almost any place else in the world? have you ever turned over in the middle of the night and reached out for your love and had your hand fall instead on an empty pillow? have you ever wanted to be wanted so much that you allowed yourself to be with someone you damn well know you shouldn't be with? now don't you all start thinking WE has lost her love or her mind....... i'm fine, honest. i've been reading a lot lately and one of the recurring themes in most of the stuff i've been reading is the inherent "aloneness" of the protagonists. existentially, we are all alone and while i can agree with that, i also know that most of us constantly seek out ways to belie that painful truth. we do it in so many ways in almost all aspects of our lives. so, what is it about us humans that we seek the comfort of others so avidly? is it fear? a way to hold off the demons we all have? or is it simply that we exist more clearly for ourselves when mirrored in another's eyes? do we need to be reflected before we trust that we exist? or does our existence really only exist when it is interactive? You cannot conceive the many without the one. |
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5/19/2007 11:38 am |
Good questions...yup, good questions..... Just a short thought.....We find out humanness often comes through interactions with others.....and, we are afraid of what we find when we become comfortable with being alone.....I would suspect a vision quest or a discussion of one would be an interesting thing.....You have to become comfortable with who and what you are on a vision quest....or, at least that's the goal... I find that when one becomes comfortable with themselves, they often become more comfortable with those around them....this might be an interesting topic all by itself.... Thanks....and, what are you doing with a thought provoking post today.....don't you know what day of the week it is?....sticking tongue out.
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5/19/2007 5:49 pm |
great post, WE, and you have gotten some great comments... you asked-- or is it simply that we exist more clearly for ourselves when mirrored in another's eyes? I feel much more myself when I am with that one He, so for me that would be a simple yes... Not all who wander are lost.
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we... "have you ever been with someone, and in the midst of being there, thought that you'd rather be almost any place else in the world?" Nope. But I will say this: I feel that aloneness is the reward (for all that agony of defeat) one receives as a consolation prize, before, as well as after the realization one has spent way too much time wanting to be wanted... by someone who didn't want that one. It allows one to engage in retrospection - to discover just exactly how freakin' glad one should be that "it's all over now; you're on your own." It's a sort of virtual banana-split with a half-dozen cherries and gobs of hot chocolate-fudge... without any ice cream, cherries, banana or fudge - a pseudo-cornucopia of antisocial splendor... in the dead grass. Magical, in a spiritually void sort of way. Revealing - to the bone. Bitter-sweet, yet sporting nary one single calorie or nutrient. And, of course... as unrelenting as a starvin' skeeter on a hot August evening. Yes, aloneness (as necessarily absolute as it might be, at times) is a rather worthless quarter of meat - nothing more than something to be hung for seasoning (for perhaps about three weeks), and then trimmed and jerked, for use as trail vittles... only! Solar...
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What Solar said... Have been living by myself for two and a half years...being an introvert, I deal with it Ok...but can very much relate to 'have you ever wanted to be wanted so much'....
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you get used to being alone when your in the witness protection program like me........GREAT post dear “I am not a teacher, but an awakener” Robert Frost
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5/20/2007 5:11 am |
WE, To a certain extent we all like to be tapped for something. Maybe it is an unconscious desire to want to help or be known or just acknowledged. Then, of course, there are always those who need some sort of antagonists to maintain their protagonist ways While they may appear foolish, the make for great entertainment, and really that is why we are all here, no? Love ya M* Andy
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I am with the others on saying great post...much to think about...Even in relationships we some times when we feel alone...I do like the image you conger...mirrored in someones eyes...I do like my time alone but i do not like feeling lonesome...
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It's the Circle of Life, precious. It sounds very simple but complex if an essential ingrediant is not present: Understanding. After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009
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You have to go a long way back in evolutionary terms to find ancestors who are not social animals. Whatever the philosophical arguments are the evidence points to the fact that we are wired to interrelate with others and find it tough when that is not easily possible. If dogs get depressed in isolation, then that is because they are wired to be social animals too. In the same way that our experience is limited by the boundaries to our senses so our understanding of ourselves as individuals is constrained by millions of years' genetic heritage. Having said that I do think that a mystical view of ourselves can't be expressed in an evolutionary and functional way. I do subscribe to the Buddhist view that the world holds up a mirror to ourselves and that the reality we encounter is defining of self. This can be people, but can equally be other things too. Perhaps the time when I am most alone is when I free-fly. Even then my actions are in relationship to the invisible but sensible shape and behaviour of sky. A flight is a kind of very personal dialogue with nature - invariably without words. The experience is awesome and total ........ but from a human point of view, totally solitary. Mind you, when that happy band of flyers are on the ground they are highly sociable, bonded by a common experience, and wanting to share anecdotes. So maybe that is a sign that we want to unload. That we all need an audience ..... companionship ........ bonding with our own. For me there is a huge difference between alone-ness that many adventurers become truly addicted to, and loneliness, when the desire to socialise and communicate simply is not fulfilled. Great and thought provoking post WE. warm xx
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snork so is your real name Whitey Bulger? great, now I got to move again..........snork.........lmao “I am not a teacher, but an awakener” Robert Frost
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they come pick me up in a car.....I just have to give them the jump sign..oops....that's supposed to be a secret “I am not a teacher, but an awakener” Robert Frost
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"they'd" kill you if I told you dear...better left unstirred...lol “I am not a teacher, but an awakener” Robert Frost
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