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ahab ain't got nothing on him.......
ahab ain't got nothing on him....... power. recently, i have been the lone female in a variety of meetings that will impact the programs i run and the people that i serve. while i am quite used to being in the minority either by gender or politics in this odd City, i am now experiencing a surge of 60's feminist anger. people have suggested i send a male employee, or a male board member or bring one of the guys with me to all the meetings. that seriously pisses me off. i am more than capable of both understanding the issues and advocating for compromise. when the balance of power is weighted on one side, what do you do to try to rebalance the scales? and ahab? that's the mayor. You cannot conceive the many without the one. |
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7/16/2007 9:01 am |
I'm no help, WE, if I could figure out how to rebalance the scales, I wouldn't be so damned confused right now! Not all who wander are lost.
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7/16/2007 10:03 am |
I wish I had the answer for you but it sounds like small town politics, which we have a lot of, around here. They defy any natural laws of reason or sanity, IMHO. Since they are acting like Boss Hawg, my suggestion would be to hit them with arrows, jump in the General Lee and make a fast escape from Roscoe. Normally, I would say, call a spade a spade and confront their sexism and condescending behavior but I suspect that would not work in this case. Good luck!
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7/16/2007 10:54 am |
Does this kind of shit ever stop? What century is this? Hello! You are the one and only best human for the job. End of story. Use your considerable intellect to show them what they refuse to see for themselves. Avoid the urge to resort to euthenasia for the terminally stupid, though. It's not yet socially acceptable no mattter how good an option it might seem to present.
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7/16/2007 11:50 am |
I find that when I'm up against the wall I go to the Socratic approach....I ask questions and help others understand the answer by asking good questions.....If I talk and they have to listen, they will never get it because they don't listen....If they have to answer questions, then they will figure it out.... So, for me, the secret is learning how to and when to insert a really good question....Oh, and when you are asking questions, you stay in total control of the conversation....they never get the last word, but they do think they do.... Now, what is the payment for all of this great consulting?....*weg*
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7/18/2007 1:32 am |
Never was very good at playing those games. I "try" to keep focused on what the real needs are rather than getting my way for those needs. If I can keep the discussion off me, or "them" masculinity/femininity and keep it on the subject at hand I do a lot better. But if I get side tracked into gender issues I get all balled up, distracted and end up arguing about things I don't really even care about and then it's smoke out the window. If they make remarks about "girl" it's their 19th century problem. Ignore the bait and stay on course even if yo have to redirect them. Sort of like the Asian martial arts philosophy. You don't fight power, you ackowledge it, help guide it on an efficient path that gains the objective. Lao Tsu says something like The best leaders are those who when something is accomplished the people say, "We did it ourselves." What else ...? Move to the West Coast. For the most part, we're into the 21st Century
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Sistergirl, I'm sure you named yourself wicked for a good reason. I'm betting you'll kick their ass and they won't even know what hit them. Of course, you'll do it with finesse and style, lick the powerful, wicked wonder that you truly are! ^5, now get out there and kick some dumb ass!
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7/19/2007 10:16 pm |
Haa...love your mood!! Hmmmm...I can see why you'd be pissed. I work in a field which is predominantly male. My college major, while different than what I am doing now, was also predominantly male. I always hated the attitude that because I was female I wouldn't get it, couldn't contribute anything important, and I should just sit there and be quiet. So, I just worked hard and let my higher test scores speak. And now, I do what I need to do...speak my mind when I need to, but, for the most part, just let my hard work speak. Doesn't always work...and some men are complete idiots who will NEVER change...but, eventually they will be gone, and maybe someone who is more intelligent will take their place!! "All you'll get from strangers is surface pleasantry or indifference. Only someone who loves you will criticize you." - Judith Crist, crack film critic
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7/20/2007 5:13 am |
Although I don't go through what you probably go through, when I feel that I need to balance things, I follow the suggestion of Frederick Douglass when the newly freed slaves asked him what they should do now. His reply was: "Agitate, agitate." Thanks for letting me share, Henry
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7/20/2007 9:48 pm |
wickedeasy replies on 7/20/2007 11:06 am: grins..... like a woman? tbh, i like working with men on the whole......find it easier and more linear. i just hate workign with dumb men....... EXACTLY!! Yeah, I agree...I like working with men too, as long as they are not dumb men...with annoying, nasty personal habits... "All you'll get from strangers is surface pleasantry or indifference. Only someone who loves you will criticize you." - Judith Crist, crack film critic
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